Thought for the Day !!

To be trusted is a greater compliment, than to be loved.

Why Life Sucks ?

I got a call from a long lost friend who on many occasions blames others for his faults and things that he never had a control. I wonder, what might be his expectations form life and things he is doing in life. Sometimes it sounds like me sheer waste of time and some other times as if time has stopped for him. After I finished the conversation with him, I recalled couple of things that I want to share here.

- Why someone loses the excitement in all forms of the work he/she is doing?
- Why someone started seeing things the other way round and then blame something else for them life sucks ?

And I believe these questions and similar other questions started with a “Why” that make things more complicated in life than ever. In life we have always two ways to go for the destination; for sure only one path, the first one leads to the destination, and the other no one knows where it leads.

The very selfishness of the person when ignore things happening around always follows the latter path. Maybe life sucks because we are mindless primates like to live in small tribal groups hunting for food and unknown pleasure. Perhaps our pain is the natural result of our living in an unnatural environment.

Who is responsible for this ?

Whatever we see need not follow the path of truth as most of the things in life are yet to be explored. And for that we need to have the eyes that can see the things the way they are ..., so what really makes a difference is the take away from time to time. We may take a long time to realize and understand ourselves, but it takes the whole life to retain it in this ever changing world.

Conclusion, I am made up of my thoughts, so unless they change it’s difficult that I will change.

Quote(s) of the day !! Friends

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself.

Good friends are like stars.... You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

We are all travellers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

Commandments of Success (10 Points)

• Speak to people there is nothing as nice as a cheerful greeting.
• Smile it takes 72 muscles frown only 14 to smile.
• Call by name, everyone is pleased when you remember their name.
• Be friendly & helpful and others will respond in like manner.
• Speak & act as if everything you do were a genuine pleasure.
• Be genuinely interested in people.
• Be generous with praise cautious with criticism.
• Be considerate with the feelings of others, it will be appreciated.
• Be thoughtful of the opinions of others, there are 3 sides to any controversy - yours, the other person & the right one ?
• Be willing to give service, what counts most in life is what we do for others.

Don Ka Fan

I found one nice write up from a user in orkut, just read it and you will find it in DON Style :)

Don ka intezar to 11 companies ke HR kar rahi hai.... par ek baat samaj lo...

DON ko retain karna mushkil hi nahin namumkin hai.....Kisi bhi company ki salary itni mazboot nahin jo DON ko retain kar sake ...

DON ko do type ki companies bilkul pasand nahin..ek wo jo recruit karne main bahut der karainAur doosri wo jo fauran recruit kar lain...dono main kaam ka khatra zyaada hai ...

DON ke manager ki sabse badi galti ye hai .. ki woh DON ka manager hai...

It's nice to find people, who can be inspired so much by movies ...

I am different, so as my personality ... (10 Points)

• We all come in different "Shapes"and "Sizes".
• We all have "strengths" and "weaknesses".
• What's right for one person may not be right for another.
• There are things that are important to me, that you don't care about at all!
• And sometimes your behavior doesn't make any sense to me.
• But I want for us to understand each other, and communicate well,because we live together in the same world.
• I know I can't expect you to want the same things that I want.We are not the same person, so we will not always see things the same way.
• I have my own thoughts and my own ideas, that may or may not fit into your vision of who I should be.
• By learning more about my own personality, and about other personality types, I can come to a better understanding of my strengths and weaknesses.
• I can improve my interpersonal relationships, realign my expectations towards others,and gain a better self-knowledge that will help me define and achieve the goals.
  

Better personality for better performance (4 Key Points)

Source : Joshy Thomas

Personality and performance are closely related. Wrong type of personality will cause undesirable tension and worries in families, organisations, and societies. It is the root cause of all tensions, strikes and unrest. It leads to turnovers and job dissatisfactions.

The only way to improve our performance is by improving our personalities.

What is personality?

Personality is the study of the unique traits of an individual. The word ‘personality’ comes from the Latin word ‘persona’ meaning ‘mask’. Thus personality came to be associated with a person's outward appearance. But today we know that personality doesn't mean external appearances alone. It is rather a dynamically organized totality of personal traits, which distinguish one individual from another. It is the total picture of the person, consisting of his inner and outer being.

Personality consists of the four dimensions of a person: physical, social, mental and spiritual. If you want to develop your personality you need to develop these four areas of your life. Our performance and success depends on how well we develop and integrate these four aspects of our personality.

1. Physical dimension

The physical dimension plays an important role in the development of one's personality. A good, healthy physique can enhance one's personality and self-esteem. It includes your health, strength and withstanding capacity and not your physical structure, colour and beauty.

It also concerns how you present yourself to others: your dress code, lifestyle, behaviour, etc. The better dressed you are the more sure you are to attract people to you. People have become conscious of their physique today and they frequent gyms and go for exercises to keep themselves fit and healthy. We communicate our personality by the way we walk, stand, sit, talk, look and act. All that we do communicates the level of our personality.

Learning to keep oneself fit and healthy and to present oneself in a decent and socially acceptable manner is an art a person needs to learn in order to develop a better personality.

2. Social dimension

It refers mainly to one's ability to relate to others. Human beings are social beings. We can't live as islands. We need to relate and communicate with others if we want to improve our performance and become better human beings. We need to learn the art of creating lasting and effective relationships in today's world of use and throw away culture.

We need to develop our communication skills and plant in ourselves the seeds of social values like equality, justice, fairness etc. A person who loves and cares for the others has a great personality. You will never be forgotten for your humanitarian services.

If you dislike others they too will dislike you. Construct good relationships with those around you and they will stand by you when you least expect. You need to become more an extrovert who is sociable, talkative, assertive and supportive. Give joy to everyone; smile always and more so when things go wrong.

3. Mental dimension

It refers to the intellectual capacity of a person. A person who is intuitive, intelligent, clever and creative is always wanted in a society. They are admired by others for their discoveries, innovations and excellent minds. Use your common sense, brain and imagination to become more creative and innovative. People admire you if you are intelligent and smart. Take risks and challenges and be willing to walk the road less travelled. People admire such tough people with character and commitment.

A person with high goals has a better personality. He aims high and people will hold him in high esteem even if he doesn't reach his dream. Have high goals but be filled with humility.

It also means that we need to have a positive mental attitude. Think positive about yourself and about others. Treat everyone with utmost respect and esteem. See something good in everybody and in everything. Also create a positive atmosphere around you. People then will love your company and will admire your personality.

4. Spiritual dimension

It refers to how you uphold values and principles of life and how you relate with the divine person. It is a great power that all of us have within us, which guides our conscience and behaviour. It expresses itself in our moral values and sense of duty, responsibility and accountability. It gives us the power for self-confidence, leadership, initiatives, willpower and self-discipline.

It makes us authentic and genuine when we are alone and in the company of others. Our spiritual dimension gets reflected in our sincerity, honesty, truthfulness, kindness and gentleness. A deep union with the divine person and selfless love for humanity enhances our personality.

Control your emotions if you want to be a hero. If you want to be admired by others you must learn to control your fear, anxiety, hatred, anger, jealousy, suspicion and pessimism etc. Express instead plenty of positive emotions like love, kindness, hope, loyalty, trust and optimism etc.

We need to have good personalities to attract, enthuse, influence, motivate and lead the others and us and to reach the optimum performance level. Our success depends more on our personality and very little on our knowledge and resources. It is said that a person with a magnanimous personality can brighten the room he enters. He can sooth, calm and thrill the people.

Success and performance will come to us when we develop in us pleasing, attractive and winning personalities. We need to improve our personalities first to improve our performance.

Quote(s) of the Day !! Truth

Learn not the truth of the Self save from one who has realized it; in all others it is mere talk. Realization is beyond virtue and vice, beyond future and past, beyond all the pairs of opposites. “The stainless one sees the Self, and an eternal calm comes to his soul.” Talking, arguing, and reading books, the highest flights of intellect, the Vedas themselves – all these cannot give the Knowledge of the Self.

- Swami Vivekananda

Quote(s) of the Day !! Dreams

• Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born.
• Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.

Quote(s) of the Day !! Life

• Coming together is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is success.
• The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach. It isn't a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled, but it is a calamity not to dream ...
• Never dwell on what you have lost, only on what you have left. Count your blessings. You’ll always find plenty. Your most prized possessions are your unexpired years.